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cmdrchristof · **cmdrchristof** Joined: 10 Apr 2008 Posts: 676

Ok guys and gals I'm writing this because I have gotten so many friend requests from people on here who have not posted at all.

This is not just a PM site, the forums are a big deal. So why would you not post on them? I understand if you're new but until you post there's no way I'm going to friend you.
Simply put, I use not only the content of PM's but the quality of a persons post to decide if I will accept their friend request or not.

What do you guys think about this? does anyone have any similar ideas or completely the opposite?
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AngelsWay · **AngelsWay** Joined: 05 Jan 2010 Posts: 103

I would also like to know how other people decide about who to accept friend requests from and who to not accept. I would also like to see what you all think it "means" to be a member's friend on this website. For instance:

Why would you want to be a member's friend?

Is it an affirmation that you agree with the member's posts?
Or is it because you like the member's profile?
Or a combination of both?

Is it because you would truly like to have a friendship with the member?

Is it ever because you are interested romantically in the person you want to befriend?

Is it a contest to see who can gather the most "friends" on RCS?

Or something else all together?

Do you ever worry about hurting someone's feelings by not accepting a friend request? Do you need to state why you don't want to be their friend, or do you just ignore the request?

What is the online Christian etiquette about "friends"?

Like cmdrchrisof, I would really appreciate your input and opinions. Because I am confused about it all.

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I want to tread where angels have tread and walk as close to our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ as I possibly can! Remaining on the Narrow Path and relying on the Holy Spirit is how that walk is happening in my life! Luke 1:37

**christian101gal**

well i am on this site to meet someone i have had a lot of people look at my profile but thats all i pm a lady to sayhow sorry i was to hear about her familey member passing away and i did not get a responce and another person i pm and no responce what is wrong with wanting to talk to another woman like how is the weather in your stateso if i ask if you want to be my friend and you agree i will be your friend only to talk one on one i think pm is so that a person can say what you want so that only the other person can read what you have to say in private

AngelsWay · **AngelsWay** Joined: 05 Jan 2010 Posts: 103

Hi, Christian101gal!

I am glad that we are already "friends"! We think a lot alike!

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to talk with other women on this site. Being a Christian single is NOT just about being in constant search for a mate, (if it should be at all!), but about being friends with other single people - male AND female. I personally believe that if someone sends you a personal message "pm", it is quite rude to not respond back. Even if you respond back with, "I'd rather not be friends right now", or "I don't think we are compatible".

The world we live in is mean, judgemental, prejudice, bullying, and uncaring. Christians are NOT of the world and should act accordingly in a loving, caring, kind, and brotherly fashion. We should treat others in the same way that we would like to be treated ourselves.

My questions about "friends" on this post is because I truly do not want to hurt another person's feelings in my responses or my acceptance or non-acceptance of "friend requests". This is because: although I believe most everyone on the RCS website is either my brother or sister in the Lord, I do not believe that everyone on RCS is my "special" friend - that is to say those with whom I share similar values, interests, and with whom I enjoy communicating either through private messaging or through the posts.

I just wondered if I was on the same plane as others on this website with regard to how the "friends" request is interpreted and what it means to be a another member's designated "friend". Just to avoid misunderstandings.....

Hope others reply with their perceptions and opinions! They are much appreciated.
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On the Way of Christ Jesus - AngelsWay

I want to tread where angels have tread and walk as close to our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ as I possibly can! Remaining on the Narrow Path and relying on the Holy Spirit is how that walk is happening in my life! Luke 1:37

knitter83 · **knitter83** Joined: 18 Mar 2010 Posts: 6

I think even though most of us are probably on this site to meet someone, we all need friends in the Lord and this is a great place to meet them also. I think pm's are great to get to know each other on a one to one basis and I think they should be responded to.

vixenkat_2001 · **vixenkat_2001** Joined: 08 Jan 2010 Posts: 193

well, i am selective who i have for a friend on here. i think we all need to be a bit cautious as the toll rate of scammers is indeed rising. i do not get many requests for friends, and in a way it hurts my feelings lol, but then i remember how abrasive i am and i think in a lot of ways people do not want to hear others opinions when it differs from their own. i am who i am. period. i am honest, blunt, and to the point and i have the attitude if you don't like it i could really care less because God loves me regardless. i also know i have a ton of friends in my real personal life who love me and accept me for who i am, especially when i do crazy things like falling out of my chair yesterday at the family fun night at the ymca for my church! hehehhe got a lot of laughs and ribbing on that because i wasn't sitting correctly in my chair and was tilting it forward (like we tell our kids NOT to do) hehehhehe.

to me, friends are precious, not something you have just because. you find a certain bond or something interesting about them (like steve's pic of his view...oh the beauty God gave us in nature...). hehehhehehe wonderful beautiful majestic trees.
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Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not see them, but I can look up, see their beauty, believe in them, and follow where they lead. ~Louisa May Alcott~

**RedViolet**

I've heard it said many times that in order to have friends you must show yourself to be friendly. It's not always easy to reach out to someone - I think it shows a vulnerable side to the person reaching out and a step forward in developing trust on both sides.


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