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Is having a virgin wife important to you? yes  58%  [ 17 ] no  24%  [ 7 ] doesn't matter  17%  [ 5 ] Total Votes : 29
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shiku Joined: 06 Mar 2009 Posts: 71	Fri Feb 19, 2010 10:53 pm  warrior7, Its interesting that you raise this issue of submission. I think what we need to do is to work on us and when we are ready the Lord will bring the right man. What we are will not be changed by marriage because what we have not dealt with will become an issue in marriage. For example if you feel the need to want to control, unless you deal with this before marriage it will still be an issue. I want to share an article I wrote a while ago on God's design for marriage. I hope it is helpful. http://www.bukisa.com/articles/138512_aligning-your-marriage-to-fit-with-gods-design _________________ The grace of God, the love of Christ and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you, Shiku
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warrior7	Fri Feb 19, 2010 11:53 pm  Thanks Shiku! Very nice article... i was blessed reading it nice concepts in there... and strongly agree with what you wrote... Thanks for the those thoughts... see i realized that role... but hard for me to put it into action... yeah i think i really need to seriously work on my issue regarding submission with God's grace... I can see that it would really be a problem if i bring it into my relationship with my husband in marriage... and other than that... I still have a lot of other issues to work on, especially my fear on tying myself to marriage. I'm scared to surrender and be vulnerable I guess. You know it's just very hard nowadays especially that there are a lot of what males do that can raise a woman's nerve! It just provokes my passion for righteousness. Last edited by warrior7 on Sat Feb 20, 2010 12:38 am; edited 2 times in total
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warrior7	Sat Feb 20, 2010 12:09 am  vixenkat_2001 wrote: i remember taking my kids to college classes with me (had to go to college behind my ex's back lol) and when classes were done, get home and take care of the house, cater to the kids sports, and the "man". then when i finished college, i worked, came home and took care of the house and kids and catered to everyone, but never was catered to lol...someday...someday....appreciation will pay off. dear sister... you had been through a lot... but im hoping that one day all your hopes would come to pass... may the Good Lord bless you with a man of His own heart that would take care of you and treat you like a special Queen.. I'm really looking forward to that time when God would reign in all sects of our lives... how tremendously amazing it would be if God, who is Love would reign marriages, in our families, societies and countries! It would be like heaven here on earth... when all of us just lives in Love for Love and with Love... It would be amazzzzzzzzzzzzinnnngggg!!!
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shiku Joined: 06 Mar 2009 Posts: 71	Sat Feb 20, 2010 3:26 pm  @warrior7 "I still have a lot of other issues to work on, especially my fear on tying myself to marriage. I'm scared to surrender and be vulnerable I guess". You are on the right path as you recognise the issue that you need to work on. There is "no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment"1John 4:18. My suggestion is for you to write down on a paper what it is you fear and why. Then submit it the Lord in prayer and He will reveal to you what you need to do to overcome it. Another thing is to write down on paper the qualities you want for a husband on paper. Make sure that they are values that are in agreement with God's word. Present the qualities to God in prayer and put it away. This will help you in weeding out the men that come into your life. If you delight in the Lord and in His ways He will give you the desires of your heart because eventually what you want will be God's will for you. Perhaps at the moment you should only involve yourself in friendship than in serious commitment. This will enable you to find yourself. You have great wisdom for your age and this is something you ought to treasure and let it work for you. _________________ The grace of God, the love of Christ and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you, Shiku
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warrior7	Sat Feb 20, 2010 7:13 pm  Thanks Shiku! I will do that. Glory to God for sending me a messenger like you! Be blessed my sister!
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jafo1977 Joined: 11 Jun 2008 Posts: 139	Sat Feb 20, 2010 7:34 pm  As a virgin myself, of course it would be nice to marry someone who is one. But its not the most important thing and its not a dealbreaker. The important thing is who are they now, the past is the past. These are some guiding questions to ask, are we spiritually compatible or around the same level of devotion to Jesus? Do we share enough things in common? Is there a deep trust between us (when we get to the serious phase of the relationship especially). What does God say to our hearts? should we get involved, move deeper into the relationship, or is He moving us to follow Him somewhere else, perhaps to be single, or to wait for someone else he has set aside for us? The important thing is what God wants, what his Word says, and listening to the Holy Spirit in these important decisions.
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warrior7	Sun Feb 21, 2010 9:13 pm  good one!
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EarnestGonzales Joined: 09 Mar 2010 Posts: 4	Wed Mar 10, 2010 9:07 pm  It is important however Well indeed it is important cos I believe most guys would love to be the first. However, circumstances happen and if the girl that you really love made a bad decision in the past...you can't undo it... You have to accept her and together you've got to move on... What important is, she is living a new life now with Christ as the center and so you are
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nicole20 Joined: 08 Mar 2010 Posts: 3	Thu Mar 11, 2010 10:20 am  I agree with journey to the lord. sex outside marriage is sin and so wouldnt be and is not right. However, like she says not all of us come into a relationship with God undefiled and in such cass, i remind you of mary magdalene....she confessed her sins and the lord accepted her. He hasnt changed since. But as a matter of fact, this does not mean..fornicate, confess and receive forgivenss..for its written, shall we now sin that grace abounds more? for those who already have had sex outside marriage, its not too late to turn from that practice but for those who are still virgins..thats the only way to go until marriage.....that is the commendable way of the Lord our God
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nicole20 Joined: 08 Mar 2010 Posts: 3	Thu Mar 11, 2010 10:45 am  Re: It is important however EarnestGonzales wrote: Well indeed it is important cos I believe most guys would love to be the first. However, circumstances happen and if the girl that you really love made a bad decision in the past...you can't undo it... You have to accept her and together you've got to move on... What important is, she is living a new life now with Christ as the center and so you are You are right Earnst, in christ we have become new creations....
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Irelandscinderella	Sat Mar 20, 2010 7:13 pm  Hmmm Well I was a virgin when I got married.. and my now ex didn't think anything about it at all. He was not.. and it really hurt me deeply when he didn't think it was a big deal for me to save that precious gift for him. After my divorce... I have had a hard time. Because I did save myself. And now people look at me as used goods. There are several men whose profiles I have loved, only to read at some point that the person has to be a virgin. It's really sad to me. I think it is awesome if you can wait.. and if it is your first marriage.. i think it is great... But I hate condemnation based on one thing and the fact that my husband left me... I never get the chance to even have a conversation with some of these guys.. because they have branded me... It's just sad.
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steve1313 Joined: 09 Mar 2010 Posts: 814	Sat Mar 20, 2010 8:03 pm  I dont think virginity should be an issue These arent the dark ages Plus a lot of women are divorced Some unfortunatly have been abused as a child or thought they were in love and gave up their virginity If you trully love the woman this shouldnt be an issue
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